#selfcaresundays – Time

to: me

I don’t know about you but as I get older time just seems to go by much quicker. Especially now that I’m pregnant, I feel like I don’t have enough time to do anything. I work, I come home and then I pass out and do it all over again. On my days off, I take one of those days to mostly relax because if I don’t, the work week just seems so much longer and my feet start hurting so much earlier. The other day off is for errands and what not like grocery shopping or doctors appointments or simple meeting up with friends. I just feel like there isn’t enough time to do everything we should be doing but at the same time, I need to take care of myself and rest too.

Self-care for me sometimes is about finding that right balance between work and play and rest. If only time would slow down maybe it will be easier to find that balance.

One thing is for sure though, always make time for yourself and loved ones, everything else can wait.

No matter how stressed I am about not getting stuff done, I make sure to spend some time for myself (like taking that day to mostly rest) and spending time with loved ones. I know since I’ve gotten pregnant, we have definitely made more of an effort to see his family more as his family is here and mines not. I’m kind of happy we don’t have to worry about making time for both families. It helps ease a little bit of the stress.

Have you found time to be going by too quickly?

<3 Sarah

#selfcaresundays – support

to: me

Sometimes the only way to take care of yourself is to ask for help.

We made the decision to keep the baby because I always knew that I would if I got knocked up by accident. I just didn’t know how hard it was going to be. My pregnancy really hasn’t been that bad, but I needed the support of my family. Part of me regrets not telling them earlier, but another part is happy that we waited because it was just one more adversity my fiance and I had to face together. It brought us closer together and understanding what each other’s needs were and what we could provide for each other.

I’m grateful to have a partner that is willing to push himself to near exhaustion to make sure that baby and me are okay. I often wish I could do more for him than letting him know that I’m here, cheering him on.

The worries and stress has really been lifted since we told our families. This is why, sometimes, self-care, is letting others know that you need help. For me, telling my family was a huge boost in support. The support I needed, someone to talk to, to give me other insight and feedback. I think telling my family also helped my fiance relax a bit too as they were very supportive and excited. I think telling his family has brought him closer to his family, well at least it’s made him put in more of an effort to meet up with them.

Support is such an amazing way to take care of oneself. So, don’t forget that self-care sometimes isn’t just about doing stuff for yourself, it’s about including others in your struggles as well sometimes.

Who are you grateful for for supporting you through those rough times?

<3 Sarah

to: pregnancy – my first trimester

to: pregnancy 

Why must you drain the life out of me? 

My first trimester was probably not as bad as some other people’s. It still sucked though.

Honestly, it started off similar to PMS for me so I didn’t think I was pregnant at first. I was tired all the time and my breasts were tender.

After I found out I was pregnant, my symptoms made sense. I would pass out almost immediately after work sometimes and still feel tired. This is coming from a girl that doesn’t sleep much, so it was weird for me. 

What was the worst about my first trimester?

Being sick and I don’t mean morning sickness sick, I mean I had a cold kind of sick. Since I was only in my first trimester, I basically couldn’t take anything which normally is fine because I don’t usually take medicine when I’m sick but I was sick for so long. My body wasn’t fighting it as quickly as it normally does. Part of the time I was sick, I was actually sick. The other half of the time, I got my cough. I call it “my cough” because when I was younger, I use to get a cough every time the seasons changed. After talking to a few pharmacists, I have found out that it may be asthma. What helped when I was younger was a humidifier (well a make shift humidifier of a bucket of water in my room while I slept). Eventually as I was getting better, we finally invested in one because my cough just wouldn’t go away and we figured we can use it when the baby is born.

How I felt during my first trimester?

Besides feeling sick, I felt really emotional and kind of down. I wonder if there is such a thing as prenatal depression? We hear so much more about postpartum depression but I feel like I had/have prenatal depression. I will be writing a whole post on this later. 

I know most of it is probably hormones but some of it was just leftover sadness from our loss. It was hard to get excited when we were still trying to comprehend what had happened with the chemical pregnancy. For awhile, my fiancé was a bit distant to me. I threw a tantrum as I always do to get people to talk (I don’t know why it works, but it has always been how I have been able to express myself and get true answers and feelings from my family as well). We fought it out and I got him to express how he really felt. That experience made me realize how hard it must be for families to lose a child and stay together. We all grieve and deal with things differently and forget that we aren’t the only ones grieving. It’s not his or her loss, it’s all of our losses.

Did I get morning sickness?

Nope. I will say that I was afraid I was going to get morning sickness because I had/have to work. 

I also want to say to new mommies-to-be, listen to your body.

My body told me that I shouldn’t take a prenatal vitamin whole or with dairy as it caused me to have an upset tummy. 

It also told me that I needed to be armed with snacks at all times because even though I wasn’t eating more at meals, I couldn’t allow myself to get too hungry as it will upset my tummy as well. 

Did I have any crazy cravings?

Nope. Same kinds of cravings I always have around that time of year, chips and gummy candy. 

What were my must-haves for the first trimester?

1. Prenatal Vitamins

2. Sports Bra – something not too tight but had padding so my nipples don’t show

3. Humidifier

4. Snacks 

5. Lemon and Honey (for when I was sick)

What were some of your first trimester must-haves? 

I wish I had a good photo to show you guys but that’s just how life goes. More pictures in my future posts though :)

<3 Sarah

#selfcaresundays – not losing yourself in motherhood

to: me

Self-care is still extremely important to me, even though I stopped blogging about it. All I wanted to do every week was sleep. I was tired and sick for awhile and then I found out I was pregnant, which explained the tiredness and being sick. I didn’t want to bore you guys with my self-care as it really was just trying to get enough sleep for what seemed like forever. I am not use to feeling tired all the time, I usually don’t sleep a lot, so it was a huge change for me.

Anyways, talking about change, I don’t want to change just because I’ve become a mother. I want that to add to who I am not become who I am. I’ve joined one of those parent groups on Facebook and I remember seeing a post about someone saying how she’s lost her friends since becoming pregnant. There was a lot of comments on it that made me think about this and where I stand. I can understand how her friend may feel, I’ve seen my friends move on with their lives and sometimes, it feels like you are being left behind. I can also understand how that mom-to-be may feel, like she hasn’t changed and still need her friend. Whatever the situation is or may be, there are always two sides of the story. Thus, I am going to make a conscientious effort to not just be a mother but a friend.

One of the things I did for self-care when I found out I was pregnant was not cancel my plans to go out clubbing with my friends. No I did not drink, just because you go to a club does not mean you need to drink. I can have fun without having a drink in my hand. My friends at the time didn’t know I was pregnant, I had to make up some excuse as to why I wasn’t drinking but it was worth it. I had so much fun laughing and dancing with my friends and not thinking about the fact that OMG I’m pregnant what the eff am I going to do.  

I didn’t take any pictures of just myself when I went out that time so here’s a picture of me years ago out on the town ;)


So, how have you pregnant moms kept your sanity while pregnant? What were some self-care that you did that helped you get through the pregnancy?

<3 Sarah